You know that feeling when you’ve been on the hamster wheel for so long? Then, you finally feel inspired to jump off because you know what’s next.
You start to put the wheels in motion. Feeling excited about what’s next. But, you hit a roadblock. You start to question the actual feasibility of it. The timing. Suddenly, this next adventure feels like you have to fit it into what you’re living right now.
Rather than putting things in forward motion, we decide that if it doesn’t fit within the “rules” of the life we’re living right now, it’s not going to happen.
As I navigate this myself (a story for another time), I also have a friend who is in a similar boat and we had some pre-Memorial Day weekend realizations.
After an afternoon yoga class, I was outside in the Core Power parking lot chatting with a friend. This friend had plans to move for an incredible new opportunity in London. Similar to me, she was in her early 30s, feeling like she was on a hamster wheel. Constantly trying to force things to work just because they worked for other people.
London would be her something different. Her something that was aligned with herself and gave her inspiration to create. She was a fashion designer after all.
Earlier that day she had texted me about how she was trying to figure out the best time to start the program in London. She was ready to go this fall, but still had a lease on her Dallas house. Truthfully she was ok with either start date but was feeling torn on what to commit to.
She knew she could break her lease, she’d done it before but felt like maybe it just made more sense to wait until the lease was up the following year.
When you’re ready for that next step…
When you’re ready for that next step, and it’s been a while since you’ve taken a big step forward for yourself, I strongly believe in momentum and jumping in sooner rather than later.
Even though her lease agreement said that you couldn’t sublease, I suggested that she just ask. Let the landlord know that her job was relocating and that she was more than happy to put in the effort to find a quality tenant to replace her.
We often make rules for ourselves and forget that so much of life isn’t black and white. All it takes is the landlord to be like “Yeah it’s in there but we can work something out”.
On the other hand, because she knew that it was an option that she could be ok with to wait out her lease before moving to London, if the landlord says no, then at least she tried.
How to make a decision faster
I also think this makes decision-making so much easier. If you’re trying to weigh whether or not to do something – if you just ask about one of the scenarios and it’s a no, at least you know now! Either way, you end up when and where you’re supposed to be.
Divine timing makes no mistakes.
After our conversation, she called her landlord. Even if the landlord said no, she was still going to go to London, just a few months later.
Back to the Core Power parking lot. She shared that her landlord was totally cool with this. Not only was she ok with her finding a subleaser, but she also gave her options if she wanted the landlord to help find a new tenant as well!
The easiest thing to do in life is to assume that our circumstances are our circumstances and that we just have to wait things out. If we’re being pulled in a direction, we can tap into that gray area of questioning. Why not try and see?
Chances are if you’re being pulled in a direction that is for you – asking for support will launch you there faster.